Unrealistic expectations happen when people refuse to stay in their lane or their list is so exacting that no one will ever live up to it. Everyone wants to date a 10, but then get mad when they’re a 5 and the 10 turns them down. Model types tend to have their pick so if you don’t meet their exact standards, you’re not getting a date. If you can’t afford them, they’re not dating you either. The other side of this is the “impossible” list. I once knew a Christian guy who wanted a girl who was: a 8–9–10 in looks, a biblical scholar, a Proverbs 31 woman, fashionably dressed and styled at all times, the saintliness of Mary mother of Jesus and Mother Theresa combined, traditional, high income earner, busy going on mission trips and heavily involved in the church, and willing to both have children and take care of the home alone. Yeah….he’s still single at 41. Shocker.
There are many reasons, but the person would have to ask someone who knows them. Most people who can’t get a date have one of the following issues: hygiene/appearance, attitude/aura, unrealistic expectations, and lack of effort/anti-social.
Lack of effort/anti-social reasons are fairly easy to fix too. If you are too awkward to talk to people, practice with people who are non-threatening. My advice would be to find a group of nice old people and talk to them. Old people are often lonely and will talk to anyone. They don’t care if you’re awkward; they’ll take the company. The more you get used to talking to people, the more comfortable you will get at making conversation and keeping a conversation going. Also, leave your house. If all you do is work and game, your only dating prospects are going to be food delivery people, Amazon drivers, and postal workers. Go meet people. Put yourself in environments where you see the same people every week. Start conversations. Invite someone out for coffee or lunch and don’t take it personally if people blow you off. You don’t need everyone to befriend you; you just need one or two. It may turn romantic or not, but a good friend may introduce you to someone. You never know. Good luck.
Hello,hope y'all doin good, i came to Quora to share my strange story , a very weird one , a story when luck smiled at me ,maybe u will enjoy it , let's begin,have fun...
A year ago ,I was a real porn addicted(btw I was 18) ,but never had sex before, I don't have a gf I didn't try to find one even ,always thinking to go to find a sex worker but then I just don't , everyday watching different bodies getting fucked and everyday enjoying.
One day, I was watching porn, a big ass lady with big boobs ,just after seeing her the image of my female cousin poped in my mind, (let's introduce her : she's 35 years old , very big ass , nice boobs ,not very big but nice,always wearing tight clothes , she's divorced ) and I thought of me fucking her ,I never had sexual desires for her but now I do days went by and when I met her I was so horny ,I couldn't stay with the family cz my penis was clearly erected , I realized this is my first time I get horny for one of my family ,it not illegal in my country.well to make a long story short( if u want details just text me I will tell u 😊),I decided to give her signs that I want to fuck her,finally I decided to have sex and with my cousin , I thought it is the best beggining for me, i started touching her when I came across her in a narrow place , make her feel my hard cock when we hug , I thought it will hard and I will be ashamed but no , I felt nothing and she said nothing , probably she thought it was by mistake,anyways, I decided then to talk with her about sex, waited for her to be alone in a room and talk with her, I confessed everything about me watching porn and addicted..etc,she said it's normal and u are growing up and u must have sex,well at that time I was like whaaat????? Well I didn't control myself and asked her for sex ( horny like I Ve never been before) she said that she will think Abt it ,2 weeka went by then she called me ,telling that she reserved a room in a hotel and we meet tonight ,we met,and bruuhh, sex is great , I mean, I had to find a pirstitue ,what I was waiting for to have such a feeling ????, I will never forget that night, I started kissing her she was kissing hard ,she misses sex so bad , she sucked my dick and swallowed my semen ,I felt I'm in a dream , then when fucked ,her ass was very big and the anus was open ,didn't struggle to get my hard cock inside it , she was obviously missing sex , she was shouting ,fuck me yh fuck me , I go fast after every word until I cum , we did that 3 times , then we went to her pussy , using condoms I fucked her so hard the moans were higher , everything was perfect ,in the end I asked her to lick her body , licked pussy ,ass, boobs,then she sucked my cock until we sleeped ,all I know that she was dirty ,well before even having sex with her I knew she is an open minded woman , and a woman that looks that she donesnt know anything , but she knows everything, but never expected having sex with her ,well she was horny and that helped...but no one of us regretted that sex ever..
We still have sex from time to time ,and I started having sex with sex workers , joining threesomes..etc
If u want pics of her text me.
A bad or “poor me” attitude/aura can be spotted from a mile away. If you’re bitter, either people can see it on your face or they can tell from your conversation. If you’re convinced that only hot people get dates or you are being mistreated because no one will date you, you will give off negative vibes that will push people away. If you are creepy, no one will want to date you either. Staring, making comments about someone’s body, stalking/hovering, and touching people without permission will get you rejected.
Hygiene/appearance are the easiest to fix. You don’t have to be a model, but be clean, smell good, and do the best you can with your looks (comb your hair, iron your clothes, etc.).
